Planning in advance to manage anger, angry episodes don't just happen, they generally have a specific
antecedents.
We can often understand in the hindsight the chain of events that led to our anger.
These conditions were like dry wood, and all it took was a spark to ignite a blaze of anger.
With a practice, we can start to look down the road and see warning signs before we fly off the handle.
Once we see what's ahead, we can use the strategies that work well for us, adopting a helpful mindset,
lowering our emotional arousal with a few calming birthdays, allowing ourselves adequate time to minimize
the sense of pressure.
We cannot always avoid episodes of anger, but we can prevent perfect setups by planning in advance
when possible.